Busy is probably the best thing to do when your waiting though. A friend asked the other day why I haven't been posting here lately and my reply was, "Well you can only write about waiting so many times." It is true. If I wrote everyday this month it would have been about the waiting process, which I have filled numerous posts with already. Please don't think that I am sitting in a dark room just waiting for that phone to ring. I can honestly say that I've never done that, though I do think about our baby, where they are, who their birth parents are, what unknown path lays before us, and about a thousand questions every single day; but I still know better than anything that I do have to "Carry On."
I decided that just meandering through my day wasn't quite cutting it. So I decided to make myself a schedule and stick to it. I have certain days I clean, certain days I sleep in, others I simply read and work on my art endevours, and shopping days with my Mom. But what has really helped, as a "work from home" person, is having a daily schedule. Keith gets up and leaves for work at around 8, so I get up at 8 and see him off on most days. Then I have breakfast, check emails, and facebook for a half hour. Then I write for two to three hours. This little tid-bit of time has really been quite helpful on staying focused on writing and my novel is coming along nicely. When I start hitting that brick wall in writing I get ready for the day. I have lunch, play with Katey, clean the kitchen, clean the rest of the house on some days and others I do laundry. I find "working" (i.e. writing for me) is best done right after my glass of OJ (I'm simply not a coffee person and tea takes to long to cool sometimes...tea is definitely for the afternoon.).
Though our journey seems as if it is never ending, we have never hit a road block we couldn't move past. We have come to the conclusion that there is only the road before us and we can only find our way if we "Carry On" and deal with whatever obstacles come our way. My way is moving forward each day, making each moment count, though at times it does seem as if we are not moving forward at all, in hindsight I can see how far we have gone and I am very proud of how we have got this far. Anyhow, sometimes it is not about the roads you travel that are important, it is important that you make it to the finish. Or at the very least to the next stepping stone.
Adoption is wonderful! We have a beautiful little girl we adopted at birth and twin boys we adopted through the foster system. You probably have already thought about it, but wanted to throw it out there... have you thought about foster to adopt? Maybe your child is already out there...
ReplyDeleteWe have thought about the Foster Adopt program and I do think it is a wonderful program. It is just the horror stories you hear about the adoptive parents getting attached to the kids and then they go back with their biological family/parents, which is wonderful but sad for the adoptive parents.
ReplyDeleteI know our child is "in the works" and we are just anxiously awaiting their arrival. One day they'll be here and the wait won't have seemed that long, because it is worth it in the end. :) Thanks for your comment!
I was thinking more in line with the 1000's of children in the foster system who have no bio families to go back to... who are waiting for adoption without any risk. But it seems you want to adopt from birth... which I cannot blame you as it holds a special place in our hearts with Anaya as well. We heard the horror stories as well, but we were blessed with adoption of our first placement. We got them on their 2nd birthday and the adoption was finalized when they turned 4.
ReplyDeleteOh yes, we would like to adopt an infant this time around. But you never can tell what God has in store for us later. My good friend has always wanted twin boys, how amazing that must be. Twins are such fun, they are so alike yet so very different. :-) You have a very beautiful family!
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